I wasn’t born in the Lowcountry, but I found my home here in Charleston. When I reflect on the past 5 years, I realize I owe so much to this amazing city. Charleston is the place where my soul feels at peace and my mind is awakened.
Prior to my time here in Charleston, I had spent my life with my head down and blinders on. I was going through the motions of someone I thought I was “supposed” to be, checking “accomplishments” off my to-do list:
Be a good student
Don’t cause trouble
Go to college and graduate with honors
Move back home to be close to family
Find a “real job”
Bide my time until it’s time to start a family
Without realizing it, my life was passing by and I never took the time to get to know my true self and what I really wanted; I was unknowingly a stranger to myself. The older I got the more anxious and unsettled I felt, but I ignored my anxiety and my subconscious. I assumed all would be well when I was finished with my “to-do” list.
Then, five years ago, I moved to Charleston and I woke up in the middle of a life I didn’t recognize. It’s as if I was asleep for my entire adult life; the path I had been headed down had nothing to do with ME. But I found that the more time I spent in this beautiful city, the more alive and peaceful I felt. I found the courage to make some incredibly difficult decisions and make major changes. I finally started to be present and live on my terms. Charleston gently woke me up and offered the perfect environment to begin living my true life and to be true to myself.
I believe that Charleston is my perfect oasis. It has so much to offer, whether it be the beautiful architecture, the amazing food, the art and culture, or its rich history. Charleston is diverse enough to keep you on your toes, yet inviting enough to make you feel safe and comfortable. The sense of community here is powerful, and I am so happy to recognize faces almost everywhere I go.
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Charleston has also provided me the opportunity to pursue my dreams. After moving here, I quickly realized I would never be happy unless I made my passion a priority. So two years ago I started my art business, and this city has helped support me every step of the way. I scrapped my old “to-do” list and came up with another:
Start creating art again
Set up a professional business
Push myself out of my comfort zone and network
Collaborate with other local creatives
Become a resident artist at Redux Contemporary Art Center
I am excited to say I have accomplished all those original goals, but the list continues to grow. While I have so much I still want to achieve, I feel fulfilled, happy, and very fortunate. I don’t believe I could have made this life change or become the person I am today without the support of Charleston and its amazing community.
Thank you, Charleston, I will love you forever.
ps. to get a unique perspective on my professional journey, follow along with my blog byjdeckman.com/blog. I actually like to reflect on my initial posts whenever I'm feeling in a rut. It makes me realize how far I have truly come: early days post, year one reflection, year two reflection
As a note of Interest: Angela recently commissioned Julia to paint a portrait of her beloved Tater. We think that it turned out just perfect!